Sounding Circle: MEN DO CRY - ALL OVER THE WORLD
| MEN DO CRY - ALL OVER THE WORLD|
|21 Sep 2004 @ 20:59, by Raymond Powers|
MEN DO CRY - ALL OVER THE WORLD
By Paul Majendie
September 21, 2004
LONDON - British men are abandoning their stiff upper lips but still do not wear their hearts on their sleeves like Americans, a new survey showed on Tuesday.
When it comes to raw emotion, the once buttoned-up Brits are now happy to shed tears quite openly -- but Italians can still "out-sob" them.
"Thirty percent of all British males have cried in the last month. That is a very high figure," said Peter Marsh, director of the Social Issues Research Center which took the emotional temperature of Britain.
"Only two percent said they could not remember when they last cried," the head of the independent research group said.
Long gone is the "No Tears -- We're British" era when emotion was considered distinctly bad form.
"In our poll of 2,000 people, very few people in their forties or fifties had seen their father cry. Now it is twice as many," he told Reuters. "Seventy-seven percent of men considered crying in public increasingly acceptable."
Almost half the British men opened the floodgates over a sad movie, book or TV program. Self-pity got 17 percent crying. Nine percent sobbed at weddings.
"You can see what is happening over the generations. Role models burst into tears at the drop of a hat -- people like (England soccer captain) David Beckham with his New Man image.
"He had a little cry when he took his son Brooklyn to school for the first time," Marsh said.
Women's battle for equal rights has certainly had an effect -- both in the workplace and at home.
"Men in their twenties or thirties are interacting with women on equal terms much more so than a generation ago. They have to relate to the opposite sex. Women become more man-like and men become more female. That transfers into the work place too," Marsh said.
>From the days of Empire, the British have always considered themselves models of reserve, haughtily mocking "excitable foreigners" who show no restraint.
Marsh argued the divide was still there: "We have probably not caught up with the Americans or the Italians when it comes to the actual display of emotions."
"But we are clearly shifting. What we take as typical British reserve has been significantly eroded."
Reflecting on the survey's findings, clinical psychologist Ron Bracey agreed.
"We are catching up with Americans but are not nearly as open as the French, Italians and the Greeks," he told Reuters.
"In the United States, there are five times as many psychologists as there are in UK. That might be self-indulgent but the Americans want to know what makes them tick."
Category: Social Studies
22 Sep 2004 @ 05:30 by : In America
even I am self conscious about shedding tears...
So if our culture here has made it inappropriate..are we tending to be more uptight than ever?
Glad to hear the British loosening up..now if they would just open their mouths more when they talk...
22 Sep 2004 @ 07:22 by astrid : This is.....
.....the very BEST News Humankind could get!!! To me this is the proof that all what Light Workers around the Globe has been working on has had an impact, indeed!
I can not in word describe the INJUSTICE forced upon all male children these last 5000 years of PATRIARCHAL TYRANNY...
So often women feel that Life has been so unfair to them and hard, which IS true. But ONE of the MAJOR reasons for THAT HAS BEEN the injustice forced on male children....not just by older men; fathers plus all other male people, but the MOTHERS of these little boys did it to them too!!!!!!
This tortured Little Boy;s Soul was the on who then grew up and carried on the Patriarchal MADNESS: "BE A MAN" with all the INsensitivity etc that came with the territory, so to speak!.....creating an Emotionally/Mentally = Spiritually IMPOTENT grown-up man..... The Western Culture is but a long NIGHTMARE of bottled up SORROW: feelings of inadequacy, alienartion and insecurity resulted
from not allowing male children to feel and /or express their feelings and/or having them denied or in worse cases always punished, till the little guy learned to not show -anything at all exept toughness!MUCHO MACHO!
LET LITTLE BOYS & MEN CRY.
LET LITTLE BOYS & MEN FEEL.
LET LITTLE BOYS & MEN EXPRESS their feelings of sadness, sorrow and even anger/injustice. Then one day they will even feel JOY!!!!! THAT will be JOYful day for ALL HUMANKIND!
22 Sep 2004 @ 13:12 by spiritseek : I agree with Astrid
When I read this article I too felt the merging of the feminine and masculine which will put us closer to our divine selves.
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